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The Art of Becoming Her
There’s a moment in every woman’s life when she realizes she’s no longer surviving, she’s becoming. Not the becoming that comes from chasing validation or seeking proof of worth. Not the one where you overperform to be chosen. But the quiet, sacred becoming that happens after the storm when you finally make peace with the…
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Learning to Love While Healing
No one warns you that love after trauma feels like walking barefoot through a field of glass, beautiful, glimmering, but sharp enough to cut if you move too quickly. They tell you time heals. They tell you you’ll know when you’re ready. But what they don’t tell you is that readiness doesn’t feel like confidence.…
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What Peace Feels Like After the War
No one talks about how peace can feel like grief. After years of chaos of walking on eggshells, of adrenaline and crisis management and emotional CPR, stillness feels suspicious. You start to wonder if peace is real, or if it’s just the calm before another heartbreak. I remember the first night after everything finally stopped.…
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The Death of My Former Self: Choosing Peace After a Lifetime of Survival
I don’t resent my father anymore. I don’t resent my uncle. Or my brothers. I don’t even resent my first husband, though for a long time, I believed he was supposed to be better. Supposed to be the one who saved me from the mess that raised me. And maybe that’s the thing: we spend…
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The Anatomy of My Rebuild: Learning to Love After Chaos
Welcome to my newest blog. Blah blah blah, Kate’s doing too much but not enough. She’s over the top. She’s dramatic. She’s a loser. Great. Fabulous. I’ve heard it all before. It’s funny, isn’t it, how the people watching from the sidelines always have the loudest opinions? Lately, I’ve been tearing down my old life…